Caregiving when you almost need one yourself

What do you do when someone that almost needs a caregiver themselves, needs to become caregiver?

This came up today with a close friend. The decisions that must be made because of some of these diseases are extremely difficult and important. 

Some thoughts of Charlie Daniels 

I’m posting this here  to share points of view with people, of people.

The importance of Empathy – it is unbelievably crucial

Thank you for posting this on Facebook Madera Salvaje

How to choose an elder care mediator 

This is from AARP

About IT and research data – never thought of this situation 

Thank you Rebecca Wissinger for posting this on Twitter. Thanks also to all IT and research folks.

You’re doing more good on social media than you think

It’s easy to do. Scroll down the newsfeed in Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and/or others, and see something that makes you feel good or informs you. Both can be good. Then you click that you appreciate seeing it and you share it. You thanked someone for doing something for you. 

A bunch of great things happened. 

You were informed or felt happy and then you encouraged the person that posted it. Then you became that person. You shared something that may make a difference in the life of another. 
Thinking about this, in this way feels good. 

response to the “ran out of hope” post  . . . . . 

The response to the blog about running out of hope kept that post on my mind last night. I recieved several messages, each person sharing the story of a family member or friend that seemingly lost hope. 

I researched for a few minutes and it appears the numbers for suicide are rising. It seems that alcohol and drugs are 2 words that come up often, when remembering the lives of a lot of these folks. 

I have personally known several that chose to end life. I never knew any of them enough to have thought they would have made the decision to end it all. 

Well, enough for now. The statistics are staggering. I Googled “suicide in America”

This is a reminder of folks that may have ran out of hope

I have know a few that . . . . . 

He is heading home to visit an empty house . . . . . 

It’s 7:30 pm here in Roberta, Georgia and it’s dark. I took a stroll to Highway 80. I noticed a man carrying a backpack, facing traffic (none) and heading out of town. We spoke for a few minutes. 

He does indeed, have a long way to go. Some treks are not about adventure. 

8 steps I took to help mom keep her car keys – she’s 88

As we grow older the amount of driving we do slows down and our ability does too. It doesn’t always mean we must give up the keys, maybe we can adapt. Here are a few ideas and I know their are more.

  1. Limit or stop night driving
  2. Discontinue driving in the rain 
  3. Drive in familiar places 
  4. Practice driving with a younger person that you trust to point out your inadequacies (several hours every week)
  5. Drive to shopping areas that have the least amount of traffic
  6. Practice turning your head back and forth as if looking for traffic (at home in a chair)
  7. Never use a phone, even hands free, while driving
  8. Avoid enjoying the views as you drive. If you want to look, find a safe place and stop

Mom is 88 years old and her and I have implemented these ideas and we feel much progress was made. It’s not just mom’s life we are concerned with. 

I’m told that taking away car keys is very traumatic and may lead to depression.