Asking for help as a caregiver . . .

Harder than I thought.

When your near others and they speak of the problems in their life and/or the fun stuff coming up. It’s uncomfortable calling knowing you may mess up their stuff.

When folks tell you to phone for help anytime, but every time you do, they tell ya something is already planned or by the time they do help, you feel horrible. So you stop calling and the process begins again. They call and say something like . . . “You know you can call anytime and I’ll be there”

It may be easier to just do the stuff yourself.

Maybe folks shouldn’t say they want to help, if they don’t really want to.

My caregiving days are ending . . .

Picture from the past

This Saturday August 8th, 2020, my 24/7 caregiving duties for mom will end, and I will drive home. Providing the level of care mom deserves is something I can no longer do. Her care will be transferred to her daughter in law. Mom and I will have been a team over four and a half years.

Eric Liddell – a manuscript


Victory over all the circumstances of life comes not by might, nor by power, but by a practical confidence in God and by allowing His Spirit to dwell in our hearts and control our actions and emotions. Learn in the days of ease and comfort, to think in terms of the prayer that follows, so that when the days of hardship come you will be fully prepared and equipped to meet them. Father, I pray that no circumstance however bitter or however long drawn out, may cause me to break Thy law, the Law of Love to Thee and to my neighbor. That may not become resentful, have hurt feelings, hate, or become embittered by life’s experiences, but that in and through all I may see Thy guiding hand and have a heart full of gratitude for Thy daily mercy, daily love, daily power, and daily presence. Help me in the day when I need it most to remember that:

  • All things work together for good to them that love the Lord.
  • I can do all things through Him that strengthened me.
  • My grace is sufficient for thee, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.

‘Now unto Him who is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever, Amen.’
~ Eric Liddell

How to be Peaceful in Any Storm – Connecting Empathic Helpers & Artists to Spirit

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A little about turbulence . . .

“In the midst of turbulence, we hang on with hope”

“Hope can keep you alive in the midst of turbulence”

Ernst Deger

The oil painting below was executed by Ernst Deger, one of four Nazarene Painters sent to Rome and Florence to learn how to paint like the Renaissance Painters, all expenses paid by Prince Johan Liechtenstein. Prince Liechtenstein was the last ruler of the Holy Roman Empire and was in charge of the Empire’s banking system. The painting is signed and dated 1853. It is currently at the Conservation Center of Chicago for preservation. I cannot believe we own it . Note the hand of the Risen Christ .

Rumi

“The true believer knows, and beyond all doubt, that this place we are in now, between birth and death, is just a dream and only the sleeper thinks it is real. Then death comes like dawn and you wake up laughing at what you thought was your grief.” Rumi

You can feel the greatness . . .

Maybe it’s your longest run, your fastest, your most disciplined.

Maybe it’s something that has nothing to do with running, maybe it’s cooking or whatever . . .

But you can feel you’re in the midst of doing something you’ve never done before, never achieved.

Maybe you realize nobody will ever know about it but you.

There’s feelings with everything we do, I reckon.

Trying to share the greatness we just experienced, may be hard if you’re just a regular type person, maybe a wordsmith can make it sound awesome.

Maybe one person can make a trip to the mailbox sound like an expedition and another makes summiting K2 sound like a walk in the park, that nobody will notice.

Yeah, I care what they think . . .

It seems like there’s a lot of stuff out there about not caring about what others think about us.

I kinda do. My friends have invested in me in different ways, and me in them. Sometimes they help me see stuff and vice versa.

If I see someone doing something that I perceive may hurt them. I’ll mention it. I don’t think that will be changing. I hope they will do the same.

Ah, just something to think about.

Do I have time for what you want?

A few years back a fella told me I should pay more attention to current events than he thought I was.

I didn’t know much about him, so I requested to be his friend on Facebook.

Over the coming months it became apparent to me he didn’t have a job, a wife or children. He seemed to have a lot of time.

Sometime’s when people tell me I should do this or that, I may take a look and see how much time is available for what they believe is important and if it’s crucial to me.

Back then I usually found that working a full time job, helping raise children, maintaining a home, eating, exercising, sleeping and many other things, kept me busy.

Sometimes very important things must give way to more important things, I would imagine.