I’ve heard a lot of stories concerning this. One caregiver shared this with me. She has been taking care of her father for 6 years and for four years he has needed 24/7 care. Her sister comes once a year for two weeks. During that two weeks the visiting sister wants the 24/7 caregiver there too, just in case. If the 24/7 caregiver tries to discuss anything different, the visiting sister starts talking about not coming anymore. The 24/7 caregiver said this lack of understanding on her sisters part is hard to take, but for two weeks she does have a little help and some company. She feels it is not right, but thinks that trying to discuss it, with her sister, is all she knows how to do to try and effect change, and right now, nothing is changing.
She thinks it’s best to not cut her nose off to spite her face in this situation. She said she will take what is available and appreciate it, but she knows her sister should be doing much more.
During that two weeks, the 24/7 caregiver would like to go relax somewhere and do some of the things she used to do. She would like to do some of the things during those two weeks that her sister gets to do 50 weeks a year.
In this situation, I would be as amicable as I could be, but I would be persistent in asking my sister to do more.