I recieved a call yesterday from a lady that has been a 24/7 caregiver for 8 years. She spoke at one point about helplines. She said they have never helped her and have no value.
I went for a short walk and pondered. I’ve gotten so much feedback with praise concerning helplines.
I walked and this thought came to me, an analogy: Down the road from mom’s is a fire department. A sturdy looking building, clean modern equipment and a well trained staff. They have never helped me. I have never needed them.
Am I grateful they are there? Yes, because they have helped others, put out fires, saved lives and save our possessions. Do I appreciate them? YOU BET I DO! THOSE FOLKS ARE ABSOLUTELY AWESOME!
I know they will help anyone they can. I know they would help me.
What I’ve heard about helplines:
- I needed someone to talk to and they listened, for a long time
- I had never heard of daycare and can afford it a couple of times a month. The lady on the helpline told me about daycare. It’s a part of our lives now.
- Had no idea that support groups had the ability to change my life
- I wanted to know how research was going and if I could help by being in a clinical trial. I am in a clinical trial now and have been for over a year
- I thought I was supposed to try and set my dad straight and changing that one behavior changed our lives
- They arranged to meet with my family to explain what was coming
This could go on and on. Maybe they can help you, maybe not. I hope they can.
Judy (false name) and I talked again last night and she gave permission to speak covertly about our conversation.
I’m Grateful for the Fire Department and the Alzheimer’s Association.