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Two pieces of information seek to explain the importance of Empathy. The first will be paraphrased. 

It is said that both the speaker and the listener benefit from the listener being empathetic.

“Seek first to understand and then to be understood”     Stephen Covey 

“If you’re like most people, you probably seek first to be understood; you want to get your point across. And in doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you’re listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely. So why does this happen? Because most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference. You check what you hear against your autobiography and see how it measures up. And consequently, you decide prematurely what the other person means before he/she finishes communicating.” This paragraph came from a HuffPost article. Here is the link.      https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5609892

My calls to the Alzheimer’s Association helpline, and there have been several, were all answered by very empathetic and patient counselors. 

If you need information concerning alzheimers disease, take time to call 1.800.272.3900 anytime. That call will be answered by a trained counselor for the Alzheimer’s Association.  


the dinner guest had good things to say 

One of the guests at Thanksgiving dinner today shared some of her feelings with us. 

She has lived in a senior community in Macon the past few years, and she spoke highly of her life there. She has many friends, some old ones and some new. She still drives and has been given the name . . Mrs. Uber. 

My visit to that facility, a few years back, is a great memory. 

The look of sincerity when she spoke of her friends there was awesome to me. She said most of her friends are widows. 

maybe a walk in the woods would be just right

I asked caregivers, what would you do if you had a day off? Of course, when I ask that, a lot of different answers come my way. 

“I would just sit, maybe I would walk around, I dont know, but just being able to relax for a little bit would be a good time for me. I don’t want to go do anything that is noisy and crowded. In fact maybe a walk in the woods alone, would be just right.”

Roberta, Georgia has the stamp #ENDALZ 

The postal clerk said the Alzheimer’s Semipostal fundraising stamp is in the building. Soon, we will be able to purchase some. 

mom’s elderly friend fell

One of mom’s friends called today. She is almost 70 years old and lives alone. She had fallen and was looking for someone to help her get up. I drove over and we got her back up on her couch. She said there was no pain and she could move everything. Her daughter came over and took control of the situation.

According to the Center for Disease Control, each year at least 300,000 older people are hospitalized for hip fractures. More than 95% of hip fractures are caused by falling. Adjusted for inflation, the direct medical costs for fall injuries, for seniors are estimated to be $31 billion annually. 

From the National Institutes of Health;

Take the Right Steps to Prevent Falls. If you take care of your overall health, you may be able to lower your chances of falling. Most of the time, falls and accidents don’t “just happen.” Here are a few tips to help you avoid falls and broken bones:

Stay physically active. Plan an exercise program that is right for you. Regular exercise improves muscles and makes you stronger. It also helps keep your joints, tendons, and ligaments flexible. Mild weight-bearing activities, such as walking or climbing stairs, may slow bone loss from osteoporosis.

Have your eyes and hearing tested. Even small changes in sight and hearing may cause you to fall. When you get new eyeglasses or contact lenses, take time to get used to them. Always wear your glasses or contacts when you need them If you have a hearing aid, be sure it fits well and wear it.

Find out about the side effects of any medicine you take. If a drug makes you sleepy or dizzy, tell your doctor or pharmacist.

Get enough sleep. If you are sleepy, you are more likely to fall.

Limit the amount of alcohol you drink. Even a small amount of alcohol can affect your balance and reflexes. Studies show that the rate of hip fractures in older adults increases with alcohol use.

Stand up slowly. Getting up too quickly can cause your blood pressure to drop. That can make you feel wobbly. Get your blood pressure checked when lying and standing.

Use an assistive device if you need help feeling steady when you walk. Appropriate use of canes and walkers can prevent falls. If your doctor tells you to use a cane or walker, make sure it is the right size for you and the wheels roll smoothly. This is important when you’re walking in areas you don’t know well or where the walkways are uneven. A physical or occupational therapist can help you decide which devices might be helpful and teach you how to use them safely.
Be very careful when walking on wet or icy surfaces. They can be very slippery! Try to have sand or salt spread on icy areas by your front or back door.

Wear non-skid, rubber-soled, low-heeled shoes, or lace-up shoes with non-skid soles that fully support your feet. It is important that the soles are not too thin or too thick. Don’t walk on stairs or floors in socks or in shoes and slippers with smooth soles.

Always tell your doctor if you have fallen since your last checkup, even if you aren’t hurt when you fall. A fall can alert your doctor to a new medical problem or problems with your medications or eyesight that can be corrected. Your doctor may suggest physical therapy, a walking aid, or other steps to help prevent future falls.

looking for a Big day in Crawford County Georgia 

The forecast calls for a high of 69° and a lot of sunshine. Mom’s making breakfast and having a cup of coffee. She has already taken Dash the dog for a walk. 

Senior Star in Tulsa Oklahoma 

In Tulsa, Oklahoma Senior Star living has, I think, three facilities. Several of their staff ran with me from the one at Woodland Terrace to the one at Burgundy Place. When we arrived at Burgundy Place, they had an ice cream social.

That was in 2013. They made a  $2000 dollar donation to the Alzheimer’s Association that day. Good People, doing great work, and keeping folks safe. 

What a great feeling to visit senior care facilities. So many wonderful people, both the residents and the staff. So awesome to be a small part of something like this. Once again, thank you Senior Star.

the last of a large family 

Mom and her friend Dash. Mom is 89 years old.

A few minutes ago she brought up the past. Mom is the last of her family. She lost her mom, dad and ten brothers and sisters. She got a little quiet after.

Family, like branches on a tree, we all grow in different directions, yet our roots remain the same.

A recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award in 2016 – from the Alzheimer’s Association


Sue Griffin, Ph.D.

She is an internationally known Alzheimer’s disease researcher at the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences. (UAMS)

Such a patient lady. She allowed me to spend hours asking questions as I was working at gaining a minimal understanding of research.

This picture is from 2013

Stuff about being thankful 

“When asked if my cup is half full or half empty, my only response is that I am thankful I have a cup.”

“Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours.”     Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

“We may thank God that we can feel pain and know sadness, for these are the human sentiments that constitute our glory as well as our grief.”     Eugene Kennedy